Now, I am always amazed at the first time a client has an energy shift and starts to reframe how they feel  naturally but when this client who has Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and more specificially, Aspergers’s start to reframe and looking at all the positive things she has been able to do was really incredible!

I see that over and over as people tap on what is holding them up and they have an awareness of what is really going on.  First of all EFT is acknowledging and we tap on the truth of how we really feel.

Many times we just don’t know why we feel the way we do and EFT helps us find out what is really going on. Sometimes we just feel icky about something or uncomfortable.

It is amazing to be a part and acknowledge how someone feels. For change to happen there must be acknowledgement first.

They may want to make changes in their lives but it is hard to move forward when your thoughts are chronically negative about yourself or the situation. This happens to all of us.

Recently, I was working with a young adult woman who was diagnosed with a mild form of Asperger’s. Her mother had hired me to work with her because she was finishing school soon and seemed to be anxious.

There will be many changes coming in the future for her with one being looking for a full time job. Her mom was worried and knew that I could probably help with decreasing her anxiety symptoms and may help her deal with the changes that will be coming up.

EFT works wonders for any type of negative feelings, fears, and changes.

Now anyone who experiences any change in their life like finishing school or looking for a new job has uncomfortable feelings which may manifest as a tightness in the chest or feeling uncomfortable. I know that has happened to me.

But someone who has ASD which includes significant difficulties in social interaction and difficulty with any change of routine experience the same but may have difficulty verbalizing it.

So, she filled out her intake and we worked on what she thought were difficult. It took some explanation and demonstration on what EFT is and how to do the tapping but she caught on very fast.

So the areas we worked on after her intake was her fear of taking care of herself financially, learning new routines and trying new things and being bullied.

So we tapped on every negative feeling she had about these and there was a laundry list and her experiences of any examples. Who doesn’t have a laundry list of negative feelings about something?

She did start out with describing her feelings as being uncomfortable and then she described it as being anxious after several rounds of tapping.

And when we have negative feelings it is hard to see the positive in a situation or give ourselves credit for what we have done.

EFT works beautifully for anyone in that situation.

At a certain point, a client may start to reframe and look at the positive and verbalize the positive aspects and that is exactly what happened here.

Sometimes when they are ready and the negative feelings have been reduced significantly I will gently suggest reframes but in this case the client did it herself.

She spontaneously told me of what she has learned to do in the past so she can take care of herself and how she handled the bullying and came up with the recognization that the bully was doing it to feel better about themselves.

I did ask her if this was helping and she said that she hadn’t been able to talk about this stuff in this way and it was good to get it out.

At the beginning of the tapping she was serious with a serious look on her face but by the end she had a relaxed smile on her face and looked relaxed.

At the end of our 3rd and last session, she said the uncomfortable feelings were not there and she didn’t feel anxious. She also could concentrate on finishing school and not feel so pressured about the next step.

She felt hopeful that she can take care of herself. In many ways she was looking forward to being on her own. She said she will ask for help from her parents where she needs it because there are things to learn that she hasn’t done before.

Several weeks later, her mom let me know that there have been changes in her for the better. She seemed to be less anxious and have confidence. She also started to do some chores that she usually was asked to do but did them on her own without being asked.

But the unexpected change that her mother reported to me involves when the family goes out to dinner. Her daughter normally listens to her head phones during dinner and doesn’t engage in conversation unless asked but since the EFT sessions she hasn’t listened to her head phones when they go out to dinner and talks to them in a more social way.

Her mom also reported that she recently made her own appt. with the doctor on her own. The doctor’s office had to hear from her since she is an adult. Initially she got upset when realizing that she needed to do this on her own. But with brief instruction on what to say to the receptionist she made the appt.

You may think this is not a big deal but with someone who has a hard time with doing new things this is a breakthrough. They discussed briefly where the doctor’s office is in town and her mom will be suggesting she use the GPS that she has in the car to get there.

Her mom is now hopeful that she will be able to live on her own and be able to take care of herself.  My client stated she felt good and more hopeful of the future and she knew that even though there will be new things to learn she looked forward to it!