Since becoming an EFT Practitioner and conducting hundreds of sessions that have given me the experience to say with conviction that the more we love ourselves the better our lives become!

I am now reading “Loveability” by Robert Holden, Ph.D. and what he says in his book I agree with and I have talked about some of it here.

The more we love ourselves the more we love others!

The more we love ourselves the more we allow the love from others!

The more we love ourselves the more we speak our truth with confidence!

The more we love ourselves the more we know when a situation or a person is not good for us and we decide to let them go out of our lives!

I assist my clients see first of all that they made a decision about themselves that they were not lovable or unworthy or not good enough and then go back to those events when they made that decision and with a variety of EFT or Tapping techniques help them make a better one about themselves.

The most important aspect of all of this is acknowledgment that it happened and it hurt!

This doesn’t happen overnight but with time and looking at perhaps the first time you felt this way, the last time you felt this way and the worst time you felt this way we can really make a dent in that belief that we are not lovable.

In the EFT world, I love the table top analogy with the table top being the issue like “I am not lovable” or “I am not worthy” and the legs being all the events that either you got that impression or you were told that.   My work with clients is to clear up those legs that are holding up the table.  Once you take care of the legs then the table top disappears and falls down.

It is beautiful to see when a client sends me an e-mail out of the blue and and said that she now “knows that she is worthy”.  Her life is soaring and she is happy with herself.

We have been taught (in my opinion) not to love ourselves.   We see the people that are closest to us judge themselves and others and generally not loving themselves and we start to mirror those beliefs that they hold about themselves.

I agree with Arnaud Desjardins that “You will never feel loved until you love yourself”.

When we are born we are closest to loving ourselves and everyone.  We haven’t learned to put up masks yet.

As we go through our lives and things happen to us that are not so good we decide and make a decision that we are not lovable and others are not lovable either.

Again we acknowledge this first during the tapping process and with that shifts may occur in your perspective.

When I present EFT or tapping one of the biggest areas that creates resistance is when we add the affirmation, “I love and accept myself anyway”.

I remember when I first started to work with Ingrid Dinter, when she was tapping with me, I literally couldn’t hear what she was saying.    I could hear what she said what my problem was but when she got to the affirmation of “I love and accept myself anyway”.  I couldn’t repeat it and kept saying “what? or What are you saying”.

The work on anything really is inner work and how we feel about ourselves.

If you have been criticizing yourself, feeling overwhelmed and stressed and would like to tame your critical mind and find your inner peace, please contact me today for your 20 minute confidential consultation.  I would love to hear from you!