Eliminate public speaking fears with EFT
I have a confession to make.
I have had a fear of public speaking all my life. I know many people are like me and many have shame or embarrassment about it. We think there is something wrong with us.
I am speaking my truth here and it is a little scarey.
I am here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with you and that there is a solution.
We have been looking at the wrong thing and think it is a confidence problem or low self esteem but really the issue is our Meridian Energy System is out of balance.
Our public speaking fear shows up in many ways for us and can interfere with our jobs or businesses, our relationships with families and friends or any numbers of ways.
My symptoms would be an upset stomach, my hands would shake, my heart would thump, and my face would get flushed.
Has this ever appeared for you when you applied for a new job or were wanting to advance in your career? One of my client’s for example didn’t apply for a job she wanted because of her fear of having to do more public speaking.
What about asking for a raise? Can you tell a joke in a crowd of your friends?
Does this sound familiar to you?
I didn’t know that there was a solution to my problem. I thought that I just had to suffer through it.
I don’t get nervous anymore but I do have anticipation about the speech as I want it to go well.
There is always more to learn about presenting workshops as I know the more experience I get the better. Practice is important. I don’t need to be shaking or hearing my heart thump and you don’t either.
In the EFT explanation, the true cause of my public speaking fear was that my meridian energy system or my body energy system was out of balance.
When I would be asked to present something the free flow of these energies would get disrupted. So my pounding heart, hands shaking, upset stomach or any other symptom were a direct result of the disruption.
Quite frankly the public speaking tips that I tried to follow like, imagine everyone in their underwear didn’t work.
In the EFT explanation this imbalance most likely occurred many years ago in grade school and I have a specific memory of first grade to recite catechism questions in front of the class and stuttered and couldn’t finish.
The consequence of that was the nun was mad and there was punishment in the form of knuckles being hit with a ruler and cleaning the black board after school.
There are other memories in school and the fact is we all have these memories that are probably very similar.
We decide in that moment unconsciously perhaps to avoid the pain of feeling embarrassed or shamed again and we will not speak in public again or when we do we still feel the old pain of embarrassment or shame.
Since my voice is very important to me, I worked on this with several highly trained EFT Coaches and got to the bottom of it. I know that my perception of myself and public speaking is very different now.
All of us have these events in our lives and have never really made the connection that they may be causing problems now by disrupting our energy systems.
Intellectually they are in the past but energetically they are still causing a problem.
The test is think of a past incidence of a public speaking event from grammar school and if it still bothers you then that is where you start.
One of my clients had this issue with a book report and her classmates laughing and she still felt her hands shaking and the tight throat. We worked on this one fairly simply and afterwards she had no reaction to it at all. This was affecting her at the time in her current job and since then it hasn’t been a problem for her.
Another way is think of a upcoming current speaking event and check in to see if there is any anxious feeling or reaction and if there is this is a clue to start.
You may not even know what the events are at least initially and the process is one of curiosity and non judgmental support throughout.
When we collapse enough of these prior events, the emotional drivers behind them start to dissipate and fade.
Would you like to feel more confident about public speaking or have clear conversations with family, friends or business relationships?
Contact me today for your free 20 minute private consultation. We will have a discussion on what the problem is, how has it affected you and how you would like it to be and then you decide if personal coaching is what you are looking for. I am available by phone, in person and Skype.
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